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Seeking Paradise (haibun)

(haiku)

Seeking paradise

butterfly flutters

burgeoning blossom

© Cheryl-Lynn 2014/03/16

It’s that time of year when I get the itch. You know it reminds me a bit of the 7 year itch ( but not the deception itch) it  has more to do with getting in touch with self, loving self and others as well.  Just weeks before springtime, you long for romance, being in someone’s arms…those warm sensual budding feelings are simmering, ready to burst. Itching to daydream, love, fall in love, feel loved…soft silky petals  of flora give that feeling as well as their scent … tantalizing and mesmerizing.

I am located in colder climates, so the flowers have not quite started budding, the trees are totally barren and as we look at snow here and there, I reminisce of what Mother Nature has in store for her humble human minions…soon.

 

© Cheryl-Lynn 2014/03/16

 

Easter sure IS off to a good start!

20130311_233302Easter weekend is among us and for many it can mean a lot of things.  Good Friday often means repenting for your sins…not that I believe in “sin” but I do believe in taking an inventory of my life and what I have done and what I can do to improve myself as a person.  What can I do to be a better person?  That is something I have asked myself since I was a teenager I think.  Praying and asking the Great Spirit, “Please help me be a better person.” Souvent je m’entend demander à le grand Créateur,”Aidez Picture of me 46moi à devenir une meilleure personne.”

I suppose being raised Catholic, guilt and never feeling I measure up or am good enough could be partly the reason I may have thought  this way.   So that would be it is something that I “learned” growing up.  Then there is the “nurture” part, being raised by the most loving mother and grandmother that this planet has known…really!  Also being loved by extended family as well, wonderful aunts and uncles…and yes, on my father’s side of the family too…I never doubted being loved by these wonderful people in my life…EVER!     Possiblement c’est mon passé étant Catholique de vivre de la culpabilité, de ne se sentir assez à la hauteur, mais bon…la vie m’a donné une mère et grand-mère qui m’ont nourrit des méga doses d’amour! Ainsi une famille qui m’ont permis de ne jamais douter d`être aimé.

Yet, there are persons that crossed my path and yes, some who were  part of my life that did place stones in my shoes and I felt their pain, doubted if I could walk straight and tall enough…but I still did despite those hurdles.  A new friend I recently became acquainted with often says this good-humouredly…Stand TALL…and I have, I do and I will!

C’est vraie que j’ai aussi connu des gens qui ont placer quelques cailloux dans mes souliers qui me faisait mal donc je ressentais la douleur, je me suis douté un peu de pouvoir marcher (agir)  correctement et à la hauteur…mais je l’ai quand même réussis malgré tout ça.  Une nouvel connaissance me dis souvent en riant, Tiens-toi GRAND…et je l’ai fait, je le fait and je vais continuer à le faire.

The Great Spirit planned some learning experiences  throughout my life I think…but also ensured that I would always have a hand extended to help me up every time I looked up from a painful fall.  I am thankful for that miracle of what I like to call “love”.  I have known love in so many facets and colours…but I have known love and still continue to be immersed in love.  What an amazing velvety blanket to surround myself with too!

 

Le grand Créateur m`a placer des expériences toute ma vie pour me donner des bonnes leçons.  Dans ce plan, il y a toujours eu aussi une main tendu pour m’aider à me relever quand je trébuchais. J’ai connu l’amour… Des petit coup de velours de ressentir l’amour pour autrui et l’amour pour soi.  Que je suis choyée! Me sentir dorloté d’amour des amis et de la famille est tellement resplendissant.20130112_182435

Being loved as a daughter, a sister, many loving special cousins have crossed my paths…some longer than others, uncles, aunts, grandmother and grandfather…special amazing teachers in grade school, high school and university…so many wonderful people.  I have even had several employers that were kind and giving…they  too feel like family to me.

I have also known romantic and passionate love…some short lived, others longer…and the most amazing and intense love of all…my children…loving them so much it sometimes hurt…seeing them glow is contagious…seeing them struggle and cry breaks my heart in pieces every time.  Only a parent knows that joy and pain…and then as if that is not enough love to overextend the heart…a grandchild is born…and the flame of love burns even stronger.

J’ai connu l’amour de ma famille, ainsi ma sœur, mes cousins, oncles, tantes, grands-parents et parents. ET l’amour le plus profonde de tout…mes enfants…les aimer tellement que ¸ça fait mal parfois…les voir s’épanouir m’entoure de joie…les voir effondrer me brise le cœur et si cela n’était pas assez fort comme amour…le cœur s’étire encore plus avec l’arrivé d’un petit fils…la flamme de cet amour brule encore plus fort.

This morning I  prepared a homemade meatball spaghetti sauce for my family dinner.  I have to work Easter Sunday, so tonight was going to be our Easter family dinner.  I kept thinking of my dear friend Maria as I was rolling my meat into little meatballs and adding them into my “secret” sauce to allow them to simmer 3 hours…just enough time so I can leave for my visit back home.

Maria is the only Italian mama that I know personally who cooks constantly for her family but with such love.  I  had occasions to sit in her kitchen many times in her home in Mississauga.  Talking and listening to me, stirring here and there…chopping garlic and onions, shaving cheese and making me a cappuccino at the same time.

20130224_094316 This morning as I stirred my sauce and added my spices I too felt the love I was adding into my meal.  I knew my son and daughter in law like meatballs, and so it pleased me cooking something that makes them happy.

Then off to pick up my son so we could visit mom in the nursing home together.  Today I would not have time to feed her lunch since I was going to Assomption to pick up a guitar my son had found…a GREAT deal.  I was looking forward to the drive…me and my son travelling for a few hours, brought me back to yesteryear; remember those times made me smile.  How we drove around together, carpooled his friends from concerts and parties; listening to music and enjoying the view on those drives.


It was a blessed picture seeing mom and my son hold hands…one could easily see the tenderness he has for her just by his smile.  I guess one could say it was a “Kodak” moment, even if that sounds lame…it was beautiful and filled my heart with so much love and joy!  Eh, oui regarder la tendresse dans les yeux de mon fils qu’il avait pour maman me remplissait avec tellement d’amour et de joie.20130329_162819

We spent 4 hours afterwards driving to and back to get that special guitar.  As he fiddled with it while I cooked the pasta, I was reminded of those soothing melodies I heard late nights as I went to bed.  They were my lullabies that gently put me to sleep as my teenage son practised on his classical guitar late at night.

This sure has started to be an amazing weekend thus far!  I have more to enjoy tomorrow…sneaking a visit with my grandson and ending my day with a nice friend.  Ce fut le début d’une fin de semaine céleste pour moi!

I am not sure if it is springtime or just my realizing how lucky I am to have family and great friends but the love I am feeling this weekend is pure joy.  Est-ce que c’est le printemps ou tout simplement que je réjouie de ma famille et des amis extraordinaires…mais, l’amour que je ressens ce weekend me remplis d’une joie fraiche.

Happy Easter…welcome madam Spring…let love flow through the currents of life …

Joyeuses Pâques…bienvenue madame le printemps…laissé allez l’amour couler dans les courants de la vie.

Betty Boop reminds me of an important lesson that just may be a nice way to celebrate Spring.

© Cheryl-Lynn Roberts, March 30, 2013

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Happy Valentine’s Day

Caroline Michaud Photographie

Caroline Michaud Photographie
Remember that card “unsigned” that said, “I LOVE YOU”?
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It was so darn simple as kids
It was so darn simple as kids

It’s that time of year again… I do remember as a kid of 8 or 9 and Valentine’s was slightly different and yet…so simple…I remember how special I used to feel on this day. I would bring my carefully chosen and signed Valentines to share with my classmates and the fuzzy feeling I felt in my tummy along with tons of butterflies when someone special gave you a nice card “unsigned” but saying how you are special to him/her…{Heart throb…thump thump…sigh!!}

Moving on to Valentine’s Day and grown-ups…that special day…you know when couples look into each other’s eyes with a twinkle…or with that GaGa look.  It is a time when lots of guys feel the pressure to get something and aren’t “all” sure just what will put that sparkle in his partner’s eyes…or have his partner’s heart melt.

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It is a time that some partners just don’t bother and give the excuse that it is “a lot of crap and only to make money”.  Hmmm, okay, I get part of that comment but what about just a little special something…does not have to be an expensive gift or that box of chocolates or the flowers you always forget which one your partner prefers…What if it is not purchased and you show her/him…MORE THAN WORDS to express the love you have for this special person in your life??!!

What about just being more attentive that evening?  You know, like clearing off the dinner table; or folding the laundry (kids clothes) together!

What about having a babysitter stay

Preferably a human babysiter over 14!
Preferably a human babysiter over 14yrs!

with the kids so you can go out for a nice walk…or just go to the movies together after dinner.  Can`t afford that…that`s just fine…then have the kids play at your friend/neighbour`s for 2 hours and you and your partner have a REAL early dinner …tête à tête on the living room rug with candles of course and soft music…ya see, it does not have be much to be turned into something special!

No neighbours but lots of children…have the older children go out for at least an hour or so to a park, a mall, a recreation centre…it may not work Feb. 14th…so plan it for a few days later.

In addition to words…What if you just looked your partner in the eyes and said just how much she/he is meant to you?  Now that wasn’t so bad, was it?  An extra stroke in the small of her/his back…a light touch (minouche)  behind the neck…a little pat on the butt…just little loving nudges that say it all so well, “I love you”.32179_300751003381322_603805519_n

Remember that song  by Extreme “More than words”?  Well, that is one of my favourites and I find it so darn fitting for Valentine’s Day.  Not everyone has the gift of the gab or Blarney; not everyone is a poet and not everyone can afford a gift expensive or not.  But showing your special lady how you feel can mean a lot and the results, believe me, will linger…for a while anyways.

{I still do not know how to embed this lovely video so kindly click on this link…the images speak wonders….the lyrics!  Well, listen and you’ll understand why it’s been one of my favs for so many years}

http://youtu.be/rvmfQ143ZzI

Songwriters: BETTENCOURT, NUNO / CHERONE, GARY F.

More Than Words

Saying I love you
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It’s not that I want you
Not to say, but if you only knew
How easy it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn’t have to say that you love me
‘Cause I’d already know

What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn’t make things new
Just by saying I love you

More than words

Now that I’ve tried to talk to you and make you understand
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands and touch me
Hold me close don’t ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldn’t have to say that you love me
‘Cause I’d already know

What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn’t make things new
Just by saying I love you

More than words

Here are images professionally photographed by a Caroline Michaud who totally knows how to communicate in “more than words”…

Caroline Michaud Photographie

Caroline Michaud Photographie
I could think of several stories to write about this image…{heart thump}
Can you "see" feel the love...?
Can you “see” feel the love…?

What are things that make YOU feel special?…that make you feel like a woman… like a desired human being in every sense of the word.  I wrote a personal blog a while back on things that make me feel good, that make me feel desired and that make me  truly “Feel like a Woman”…and literally sigh with contentment…feeling like a feather fluttering on your skin or the nice feeling when draping a silk robe on your body…nice, smooth and special, right?

In closing, allow me to share what I wrote in my personal blog…in a slightly edited version of course 😛  

Special things that make me feel like a woman …Sooooooo… add to the list or pick one or two for Valentine’s Day  Loving yourself and making yourself feel good is KEY:)

53348_401761603228304_1176255263_o–         Finding that special sexy dress that makes my body look amazing and shows off the curves in just the right places…

–         those high heels or pumps that make those calves feel firm and allow me to walk with confidence when strutting down the street (or dance floor, club etc.), hips swaying, head up high, shoulders straight…feeling like taking on the world …bonus if my guy is next to me, gently placing the palm of his hand on the small of my back now and then.

–         Walking into a fancy restaurant, dance club or bar with the above outfit and attitude and feeling some eyes notice me as I proudly hold onto the the arm of “my guy”.

–         Dancing with my girl friends and just enjoying the music…not a care in the world…feeling eyes on us which does not stir my curiosity but just adds to my confidence.

–         Nice silk stockings that feel soft on my legs

–         A soft silk nighty hugging my body…

–         A nice feeling after a workout especially feeling my tummy muscles start firming…

–         Soaking in a bubble bath, the bathroom lit ONLY with candles and listening to jazz

–         Having my special person,  put sunscreen on my shoulders…my back…and yup, you guessed it the neck and small of my back feel extra special

–         Swimming in a lake on a deserted beach…nude…feeling light and free

–         Floating on a boat…catamaran …raft……hearing nothing but the ripple of the water and fish tails flapping the water now and then…feeling the soft breeze on my face, through my hair and on my body.

–         Feeling the breeze on a hot summer night on my body…lying on a sandy beach or on a boat…

–         Feeling the palm of  that special person`s hand gently support the small of my back as we walk into a room together

–         Touching the small of my back while dancing or on a slow walk outdoors…

–         Passing his fingers through my long hair…starting from the top of my head, gently going down to my neck massaging the scalp gently, gives me goose bumps just writing this

–         Those special eyes that look me over slowly with some subtlety …eyes telling me I look amazing…worth more than words!

–         Being pulled into his strong arms and kissed (“ardently” the cheeky novels say) on my lips… breathtaking…

–         Minouching /stroking my neck and gently towards the nape of my neck.

–         Watching a movie and gently feeling my guy’s hand cover mine…stroking ever so softly now and then…

–         When talking or watching t.v. or a movie, gently stroking my shoulder or my neck or my hand or my knee or thigh…ever so briefly…that’s telling me that you’re thinking of me …you’re glad to be near me…

–         When among people in a discussion or at a party and my special person looks at me casually and winks…or raises their eyebrows…means so many things 1) This is cool but I’d like to be with you right now 2) miss you 3) won’t be long so we can be together and ….cuddle…take your pick…they are all signs of wanting to be intimate (talking, touching or just holding each other and relaxing)

–         Sometimes, taking me by the elbow to make sure I don’t slip or fall…

–         Feeling his hand around my shoulders when walking, …just feeling his presence…

–         Those are just some things I like…Oh, oh, and lest not I forget…slow slow dancing to soul music…

Happy Valentine’s Day!

© Cheryl-Lynn Roberts, February 13, 2013